We use the same agency and are at the same place with our adoption process. I am so excited for both of them because we are all 3 at the same stage. They were waiting infant girls. I saw Shawn's picture of her baby girl and she is just adorable. This will be Shawn's first child. Lory is still waiting for some paperwork about her baby girl, but it must feel great to have that referral. Our Dossier should have been translated by now and probably approved in Ethiopia by the Ministry of Women's Affairs (MOWA). We wait for our agency to tell us that we have a court date which will be handled over there by our facilitator, who I hear is amazing!! I can't wait to meet him.
Today is our 3rd of 5 adoption classes. Six hours long, but always full of really useful information about this process. They talk about it from every angle so there are no surprises. What I'm reading from many other people's blogs who are adopting from Ethiopia is that when they come home with you, it can be like postpartum depression. Like, for a year, you are envisioning this adorable little person coming into your home. You assume they will be happy because you have EVERYTHING for them and they long for nothing....so you think! But sometimes, not all the time, the attachment can be a challenge, the wanting of their familiarity can make them scared and confused....
I recently read about a new adoptive mom packing the backpack to go to the park and the 6 year old freaked out thinking they were packing her up to go back. In her little mind, once again she was being carted off to who knows where. She the thought she was never going to see this family again. It just broke my heart when I read that. (And I've read how some other children will just eat all day long, thinking that they're next meal may not come for a while. Or hide their toys thinking that it was not theirs to keep. It's just heartbreaking!!)
They didn't know why she was acting strange, so they called up their Ethiopian friend who spoke Amharic who enlightened them as to why she freaked out. I think I need to make some Amharic Flashcards with standard phrases on them to use when they are here. So anyway, the classes help to put things into perspective. I am expecting anything can happen when our girls get here, so that we are prepared for anything that MAY happen. What I do know is that it does take on average 18 months for everything to fall into place. But it also can go very smoothly.
This wait it difficult. I'm putting an incredible amount of trust in the hands of my agency. I am a Mama Bear at heart and will make sure all is well in the end though. Those of you who know me (and David) know that we are fighters and we always WIN!!
I look forward to our class today and am thrilled about my 2 friends' referrals!