Friday, September 19, 2008

Tigist is doing really well!

The Ethiopian New Year was on September 11th of this year, which makes it 2001. (I stole this next text from Leah's blog) The Ethiopian calendar is made up of 12 months, each lasting 30 days, and then an extra month is tagged on lasting just 5 days (6 in a leap year). Most of the world's calendars are in fact based on an ancient Egyptian calendar so there are many similarities. Ethiopia is 7.5 years behind the Gregorian calendar because the Ethiopian Orthodox Church and the Roman Catholic Church didn't agree on the date of the creation of the world, so they started off from two different points many hundreds of years ago.

So we went to dinner at one of the most popular Ethiopian restaurants in Denver, Nyala on Colfax. Colfax has many Ethiopian stores, restaurants ... kinda of like a Little Ethiopian area.
As usual, the Ethiopian environment is always like you've stepped into a home of close family. The owner took Tigist in his arms and kissed her cheeks as all Ethiopians do when they meet her and other children. We've eaten ET food before, but tonight, it seemed to be exceptional. Must ... Go ... Back ... Really ... Soon!!!

The plate comes like this where you share it with the table. You don't have to, but this is culturally typical. The meat and veggies is placed on top of a large piece of injera (their bread) where you eat with your fingers using a piece of injera that is brought to your table in bulk as well.

This is a typical "table" that people would all sit around and eat from.

Injera ... bread eaten at most meals.

Nyala Restaurant owner giving Tigist some love and Amharic chat. The food was so good. We ate it all and can't wait to go back. Hopefully real soon.

Tigist playing with the boys in the restaurant.

A children's African choir came to our church this past weekend. (It was NOT the main African Children's Choir like I thought). They were from Tanzania, about 15 of them and they were just precious. This girl was a lead singer and did such a wonderful job. I know all of the congregation was inspired by their beauty and voices.

Since I am back in the choir, I had to come early for rehearsal and sound check, so we also got to see these children rehearse as well. I got so speak with some of them a little. Their English was limited, but I really wanted to connect with them and encourage them. They said this was their first time in America. Our church was only their second stop. I wish we could have spent more time with them.

Us with the children after they sang. They hung out in the foyer so that people can say hello to them before leaving church.

On the Tigist front ....
She is doing really well. She eats a lot, but if she doesn't like the look of something there is no trying it. If I sneak something in her mouth, she has this look of disgust and let's it fall out. Lovely, hey? She seems to warm the hearts of people she meets. She is just so social, I love it.

I have left her hair "natural" for a week now and it is cute on her. We put headbands and she looks like a little "Foxy Brown" ... She is a chatty-cathy all the time ... I mean, ALL THE TIME! She learns new words every day.

She had her first check up on Tuesday. Her pediatrician says she looks very healthy, she's a little small, but perhaps that is because she is Ethiopian and they can tend to be smaller in size. She's very active and seems to have no issues. We are waiting on a few things, some "certain samples", her blood work results and I still need to take her to get a hand x-ray to better determine her age by bone density. It won't be precise, but can give us the "best guess". Regardless, we will keep her at 2 with her birthday being the day we met her ... Aug. 9th, 2006.

It was a bit frustrating though getting her blood drawn. We went to 2 Lab Corp offices for blood and after the needle in her tiny arm and vein for over 10 minutes, they didn't get what they needed. She screamed so hard and loud the whole time, which caused her veins to tighten up and not allow blood flow, so we didn't accomplish anything with those 2 visits. She kept screaming all the words that she knows ... "I loo loo" (I love you), Aman (her 2 yr. old friend), dabo (food), baco (done), ciao (bye). I had to bear hug her the whole time and still nothing. We were subsequently sent to a third place, which was Children's Hospital as they may have a better way to get blood from a little child. When we got there, she recognized that it was another one of those yucky place that stab her arm as she screams and nobody comes to help, started to cry and say all of those words she knows to get out of this terrible mess...he finally got 5 viles of blood and then gave her 2 little "mimis" teddy bears for her to take home. She even found it in her to give him a kiss on the cheek ... she didn't hate him after all.

She also had 5 of several immunizations she needs. So 2 shots in each leg. She screamed so loud and thought it was the worst thing ever. It's interesting, she can fall down day in and day out and never cry once. She is just so strong and not a wimp. But these office visits was the worst for her. When it was all done, I said, "la la", which for some reason to her means "done". So a big la la and we were off for dabo!!!!

At lunch, Brandon and I got a kick out of giving Tigist a lime in her mouth. She kept on eating it, but gave us the best entertainment while watching her. She isn't so much a clown, but just loves to have fun and be social. She is very gentle around little babies and kids smaller than her. She still loves to get dressed in pretty clothes every day and when we put her shoes on, she is very excited because that means "ciao" or bye bye. David has taken her on many wagon rides around town and to knock on doors to meet new neighbors. It is so much fun because they have been following the journey since last November and are so thrilled to finally meet her. We usually try to go on a walk with all of us after dinner, except last night the boys were acting up so we had them clean up after dinner while we went on an hour and a half walk without them visiting people.

She sleeps from 9pm to 9am. Takes a 2 hour nap every day and wakes up with big smiles and lots of words coming out of her mouth. We got her a projector light with music that shows images on the ceiling as she goes off to sleep. She loves it. And it gives her a peaceful way to go off to sleep each night. At church, she goes into her class with no problem and does very well. We've met another Ethiopian family at our church last week, so our world is enlarging all the time.

Another big decision we've made is Brandon's schooling, he's 13 and an 8th grader. We've been so challenged and so has he by the kids at school and the lack of respect (to put it ever so nicely). The riff raff he's encountered, the talk about him because he DOES NOT CUSS, DOES NOT DO DRUGS and is just a wonderful guy and respects people, has really gotten to him. Couple that with trying to do well in school and it's just a recipe that has not worked for us. Home school has always been out of the question because I swear, he does not work well with me. I've tried, I've done everything, but he does not work well with his Mom! But lately, we've heard and considered an alternative option. It's e-school through the Internet and our school district. It is the same curriculum as his normal school, (if you want to call it normal ... actually the school is great, the kids NOT SO MUCH!) So he is mimicking the same curriculum, but doing it on his own through his on-line teachers and live feed from their lectures. There are field trips, clubs, blogs to talk thru and home room teachers. His text books should arrive any time now and he's been dis-enrolled from physical public school for a week now.

I have to say, that we decided this as a family, Brandon being very excited about it too. But what I hadn't considered (and it's fine ... it has to be fine!) was that now I have 3 of my 4 family members home with me all day long. When you are a stay at home Mom, you treasure the home to yourself and try to get things done here and there. But it had just dawned on me a few days after we decided that this really changes things for me too. Did I forget I now have a 2 yr. old home 24/7? And now a 13 yr. old that (fingers crossed) will be disciplined enough to pull this off? We'll see. I love his company, however this is going to be a huge challenge and I hope he is up to this. He said he is! He's organized his bedroom so well that now his desk is immaculate and ready for class each morning at 8am. A typical student will get thru class in a day in 4 to 6 hours. Or you can kick butt and do it quicker and be done with the week by Thursday or Friday and have days off. I will also get him out and about for "field trips" and lunches and meeting up with other kids who do this program too. The thing he'll miss out on of course is the interaction with teachers and some kids he likes, but the trade here is important.

Bottom line is I feel really good about not taking him every day to this "battlefield of destruction" only to pick him up each day with bandages in hand for repairs that are needed from the days struggle. Now we can solely concentrate on improving grades and building incredible surroundings for him as he improves his work habits. I'll keep y'all posted.

Evan and Brandon continue to play guitar. I love it when they play. They are playing and listening to all of the songs that David and I grew up with. So when Bad Company come up on the radio or Led Zeppelin we are both rockin' out in the car. I had Bad Company on 8-track in my 1962 Chevy Impala which was my first car I bought for $200. It was ugly, but it was mine!

Let's see, what else ... our adoption agency had a picnic on Sunday for all of their clients past and present. It was fun to see all of the babies and adoptive families we've heard about and have gotten to know since we started. Today is again, another nice day in Denver and David felt compelled to have a day long motorcycle ride to take advantage of the last of the Summer-ish days. Brandon is done with school for today so I think I'll get us out for a couple errands ... it's gorgeous outside.


Amber said...

Wow, so much to catch up on. What a big decision about schooling. You are definitely going through a huge adjustment period. Don't forget to block time out for yourself because if you don't, no one else will. I'm so glad Tigest is doing well. You gotta love her sleep schedule!Great to hear from you.

Lisa and David said...

You got that right about time for myself. I actually do that. While she naps, I'll skip out to a movie, I have choir on Wed's, I have no problem with that, but yes, I need to keep on top of things. I read your referral day, it was so cute. What a day that was!

Debbie said...

I am so excited for you and how well things are going!! I wish our school system had a program like that!!


Lory Howlett said...

So glad to hear all the latest. I love Tigist's hair "natural." She gets cuter every time I see her. We changed our middle schooler from small private school to small public school this year, too. It's hard to know what to do. So we do our best, with God's help. We missed you at the picnic! Hopefully we can see you again when Leah and Gabre are in town on 10-5??

Lisa and David said...

Yes, hard to know what to do. Each situation has to be judged independently as each child handles things differently. The picnic was fun, but not the same w/o you there. I'll see you on the 5th ... we just need to decided where.

Anonymous said...

Tigist is really adapting well it looks like. Those first doctors appointments are the worst, aren't they? Lana had a hard time also but I think we are almost caught up with all her immunizations. It's tough when they need so many of them. Good luck with the e-school. Have you thought of checking to see if there are other kids in your area that are doing it also and you can take turns on who's home the kids work at? Yikes, I can't imagine having Duke or Malcolm home all day every day with Lana and me. I mean I love the kiddo's but they get lazy as heck when they are at home. You are a great mommy though and will probably manage just fine.
Big hug!

Abbie H. said...

What a great update!

I wrote you a little while back about our adoption plans and our plan to sponsor a child from Ethiopia through Compassion. We just received her packet and announced our plans to adopt to our family!

The children in your picture looked familiar. I realized that it is, I believe, the same group of kids that I read about on Compassion's blog. You can check it out here, if you would like!

paige said...

This is a completely selfish reply, but can you please tell me where you bought Tigist's doll stroller. We love it (um, that would be Meklit--my almost 2 year old, and me!)

Your little gal is simply lovely!

Lisa and David said...

The stroller I got at a local yard sale. The lady told me it was hard for her to let it go, cause she'd collected dolls and was just simplifying her life and letting go of things. But I bought it for $10 and it is from the 40's.
Glad you like it, but sorry I can't tell you where to get one.

paige said...

Oy! I was hoping it was a quality mass-produced product from Pottery Barn Kids, or something like that. No wonder we adored it--vintage is best. Congratulations, you found a gem!